Marriage has been an important part of human society for a long time, and will continue to be in the future. Probably, most of you have thought about what future marriage and spouse would be like. I once had fantasies about marriage, imagining a perfect husband, house, and kids. I am sure I am not the only one who once had fantasies about marriage. So, I decided to conduct a survey on marriage to see what my classmates think of this very important issue. The survey was conducted during the Teaching Practical English class on November, 18, 2008.
The first question was “when are you planning to get married?” I assumed that many people would still consider age as an important matter when it comes to marriage. Personally, I do not think that age matters, but I have heard many people, especially the old generations, saying it is better to get married before turning 30. In the past, when turning 30, most of the Korean women felt pressured. However, the notion has changed, and now the average age at marriage is going up. This is well shown in the survey I’ve conducted: about 50% of the students (12 out of 22) answered they are planning on getting married in their 30s. More surprisingly, 7 out of those who said around 30 were women. The average age at marriage especially for women has increased over time. Possible factors that brought about this change are increase in women’s education and their active involvement in social and economic activities. Some of the students said they are going to get married as soon as they are ready. Only one student answered he has no plan of getting married.
The second question was “what is the first thing you would consider when choosing a spouse?” As I expected, most of the students said personality to be the first thing to consider. 15 of 22 said that they would put personality or characteristics on top of the list. Along those lines, attitude toward life, affection, and healthy mind were mentioned. It is quite surprising that no one mentioned physical appearance, since it seems like many people are obsessed with good looks. Only one student said she would consider financial status when choosing a spouse. Some unusual answers were religion and health. For those with strong religious belief, having same religious beliefs with their spouse can be very important. For me, I want my future spouse to be caring and honest. I also think that other aspects, such as financial stability and health, are important things to consider.
The last question was “how many kids do you plan on having when you get married?” The popular trend shows that people are having fewer babies. 13 out of 22 said that they plan on having two kids. 3 out of those who said two kids have gender preferences for children. They want one daughter and one son. I can see why they are thinking of having two children with different genders. I also want to have two children with different genders, because joy of raising a child can be different depending on gender of a child. Two students said that they want to have just one child when they get married. One student said that he would like to have as many children as possible. I think that was kind of interesting. 2 out of 22 said that they want no kids in their marriage. I think having no kids was very rare in the past, but is becoming more common in recent years. It was interesting that two students who said they want no kids were women.
In conclusion, the survey proves to some extent that some aspects of marriage have changed. In this survey, three questions were asked to 22 students. The first question was about a good age for marriage. A majority of the students said they think around 30 is a good age to get married, which demonstrates the average age at marriage is going up. The second question was about the first thing to consider when choosing a spouse. The most common answer was personality as I expected. The last question about the ideal number of children was asked, and more than half of the students said they want to have two children. Although there were some various answers to the questions asked, but the variation was quite small, showing most people have similar preferences toward marriage issues. I thought that the survey was interesting overall, but it would have been better to include some more specific questions about marriage.